Unwanted Ramazan wish!

Kurdishaspect.com - By Hataw Sarkawt 

A Jewish friend surprised me with a happy Ramazan wish in his e-amil. What a waste of a wish, I told myself; but I didn’t disappoint him and was rather politically correct, when I wrote back. I assumed he too wanted to be politically correct. I knew he wanted to show that as a New Yorker he is urbanite and respects other people’s cultures. Instead of telling him that Ramzan is not part of my culture, I wrote him a story that a Muslim friend had told me few years earlier:

“As a devoted teenager, I used to wake up every night and have a meal with my parents during Ramzan. My mother asked me: my dear you neither pray nor fast, why do you bother to wake up at 3 am and eat with us? I am afraid, if don’t eat this extra meal during Ramzan, I have no other way to wash off my sins, I told my mother”.

My Jewish friend realized that he had wasted his wish and felt bad about it. I am sorry, he wrote back. I too felt bad about his feeling and so I tried to reassure him. I wrote, I am not insulted by your wish, since I fast every night. It was not the best reassuring response, I noticed. He was a little confused and asked, but fasting is during the day.

I explained it further. In order to respect my elders in the Middle East , I have to fast during the same time when they are fasting. I cannot change the fact that there is a time difference between the Middle East and the United States . In order for me not to fast at night, my elders have to change their habit and enjoy three meals during the day in the Middle East . Since change it is not easy there, I have to stick to my changed regimen here.

After some confusion, my friend finally got the point. He apologized for his wrong assumption and decided not to wish Happy Ramazan to people based on the place of origin but only based on their conviction.


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September 2, 2009
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